Wednesday, January 25, 2006

WESTERN MAN CONTINUES HIS SLIDE INTO TOTAL USELESSNESS

Berlin firm developing male contraceptive pill

Berlin: Berlin-based pharmaceutical company Schering is working on a contraceptive pill for men and success seems not far away.

The male contraceptive, which comes almost 45 years after Schering developed the female contraceptive pill, is just skin deep - in the form of an implanted hormonal capsule and an injection given every few months.

This project is headed by a slightly-built 53-year-old woman, Professor Ursula-Friederike Habenicht, who runs the global Gynaecology and Andrology Research sector for Schering.

"This is just an initial step, just getting a foot in the door," says Habenicht, who has long been considering possible approaches to male contraception.


http://www.newkerala.com/news.php?action=fullnews&id=93138


Sigh...

Does it ever end?

When will the men in Western civilization stop their slide into utter and complete uselessness?

Can someone explain to me what use are these men now as potential mates for women, since they have decided to temporarily sterilize themselves through the period of our reproductive lifespan? Because that's what it will be, as I guarantee that most men won't feel the need to even think about children until they are 40 or so. AND let's face it for many of them this temporary state will become permanent sterilization; as many men will never agree to stop using contraceptives and have children once contraceptives are available for them. Just like the article said, "This is just the initial step".

We'll have entire categories of men like David Letterman and Stephen Bing, never wanting to marry, never wanting to bother having kids unless forced, just feeding off our society and everything that was built by preceding generations. Previously women could overcome this by just getting pregnant and negotiating a marriage after the fact. Well now that won't even be able to happen. Thus, the Hugh Hefnerization of our society will continue.

Men don't want to work to support families now, which let's face it, that was the only useful thing they contributed to the whole 'father as social construct' to begin with. Women are vulnerable when they are pregnant and for a time thereafter and having a partner who provided for them while they were in this condition made the whole thing workable. Men now deciding they do not want to continue this construct is the motivation behind 99.9% of these custody wars going on, with men attempting to get custody to avoid paying child support. But at least with women having more access to the educational institutions and labor force today; that was a hurdle most mothers could overcome.

But now this. It's like the final straw already...

I mean even that nutty Osama Bin Laden is married with kids. He's fighting a full-time war attempting to destroy Western civilization, as we know it, living in a cave somewhere, YET he's still married AND procreating...

Meanwhile, our guys are sitting in front of the tv set in their 30s, watching Monday Night Football, too lazy to even get up and change the channel; yet still claiming they are too young, have too much to do, don't want to be tied down, etc., to bother with a family.

Like the dinosaurs of old and gender neutralized feminists of the modern age, I predict a slow slide into extinction for Western man, if he continues down this current path...

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Somehow, I don't think unattached men will be using bc. Frankly, I'm not that optimistic that these guys would take that much initiative. I suspect that most of them will be pressured into it by wives and girlfriends who get sick, fat, or depressed on the (female contraceptive) pill, and have trouble with the other methods (heavy bleeding from IUD, etc.)

silverside

NYMOM said...

Well let's see.

There have been many changes in people's behavior due to recent changes in our society such as instituting mandatory child support guidelines and stricter enforcement of collection, for instance. Previously, for instance, men never bothered challenging custody, it was a given that most mothers who wanted their children would have them in a quasi-legal defacto custody arrangement. Not so any longer.

Just about every action involving children today involves the court, even if it's mediation, as the court is involved with that as well. So even the so-called 'negotiated settlements' that most mothers generally finagled in the past are not entirely voluntary today. There is pressure applied on mothers by mediators and evaluations can be ordered in these mediations as well.

I don't know if you are aware of this but once an evaluator makes a recommendation for one parent or another, 90% of Judges rule following that recommendation. So that's a lot of pressure on a mother to settle BEFORE an evaluation can be ordered and she be put in a weaker position with no bargaining power. Many educated people today consider it progressive to give men custody, so women are at a distinct disadvantage in dealing with any court officials including an Evaluator.

Thus, we cannot assume that the things we took for granted in the past are unchanging. Even 10 years or so can make a difference in how people react to situations today.

Clearly, men never cared about birth control before because the burden of an unplanned pregnancy always fell on women. Men could chose to be involved, but if they chose NOT to be, there was no penalties for them.

NOW there are.

The girl that they got drunk and banged in the back seat of their car can turn up a year later on welfare with the county demanding to be reimbursed for all expenses...

They can be on the hook for 18 years of high child support, 21 in some states like New York.

Additionally if they do not or can not pay it, they can be jailed.

Judges don't want to hear anymore about a one-night stand, lied about using birth control, the town slut, etc., Men are STILL forced to pay no matter the relationship or status of the girl involved.

THIS is a very new thing in any society to have happen and we are still working through the ramifications due to it...

So it's a very different ballgame these days for men who still wish to have casual sex with many women and most of them still do.

Also I have generally noticed that even in long-term or married relationships, it's generally the woman who wishes to finally go off birth control and have children. Frequently even that has to be forced upon men, ie., the woman just quits using birth control and becomes pregnant so the man has to deal with an established fact.

So I'm not entirely sure that you are correct about this. I can see both ends of the spectrum of men being interested in this, the married ones as well as the single...

It just remains to be seen.

I mean let's face it: how many women ever pictured themselves as losing custody of their children? Now there are millions of them. Don't you think that if they had knowledge of how common this is becoming, their behavior would have changed to take this into consideration????

These things definitely have an impact. As Columbia just completed a study that shows in states with high rates of child support collection, the rate of single motherhood has dropped by 20%. Now that could mean more women getting married before birth OR a 20% drop in the overall birth rate. As high rates of child support collections probably translates into lots of custody fights as well. AND when women risk losing their children, guess what, they'll quit having them.

So again, we must wait and see how this plays out...

Anonymous said...

So, you are saying we are useful only in relationship to what we can do for women, from children to support.

Haven't you thought that perhaps the movement for the male bc pill comes from the fact that men now see small profit in being burdened with a woman and children?

In the old days, men accepted that burden because we received a benefit from carrying it. Now, we don't benefit, so why should we bear this burden?

And you also complain because it will remove the chance for a woman to cheat a man into carrying that burden. Sorry, but cheating is never good, never mind if a woman is the one who does it.

So, instead of complaining about men's uselessnes, why don't you give us A REASON to care about what you want?

NYMOM said...

Well maybe there IS NOT a good reason anymore for a man to be bothered????

That could be the ultimate result, since society has now given women the same access to education along with the means to support themselves that men have, which is men are simply not as needed for family support anymore.

AND with about one-half of our marriages ending in divorce, many at the 5 to 7 year mark, well yes, your point is good. What IS the point of men getting married today or of women either, for that matter????

Actually I was listening to a remark by Boy George posted on another blog, where he was wondering why so many gays are determined to get involved with a failing social institution such as marriage. Frankly it's almost like investing in a blacksmithy that makes horseshoes, just as Ford is generating the first Model Ts...

I won't argue with you there.

I think it could be a question of men and women honestly reassessing the whole social situation and what has changed, what remains the same. Maybe start thinking of new ways to still make connections with each other, have children yet still be fair to everyone involved.

I don't know the ultimate answer.

That's why I created this blog: to bring like-minded people together to discuss these issues and think about strategies, public polices, laws, etc., to address the situation...

I just didn't realize when I did it, how much hostility would be generated by people determined to hold unto the old social forms in spite of the misery they are currently generating...

Anonymous said...

On the contrary, the misery is generated not by the old social forms, but by the new ones. Remember, in the old ones, men and women had roles, and supplemented each other. In the new ones, the roles are fuzzy, the relationship changed from supplemental to confrontational, and both men and women glorify their rights, while rejecting their duties.

So, all the benefits that the old institution had (yes, I accept it had drawbacks, but the final balance was positive) are quickly dissapearing, and all the drawbacks are magnified, and new ones are appearing. Who would want to enter into this covenant, in the current conditions?

Therefore, it's not that we are useless for women. We are indeed useful, but women are not giving us a reason to be so. In fact, women are giving us multiple reasons NOT to be useful.

So, until I can expect a fair return for sharing the fruits of my work, I won't do it. The ball is in women's court now, let's see what do they do with it.

Finally, and please think about this, do you know why this men-women conflict will be won by men? Because unlike women, the only thing men need to do to win it is to do NOTHING.

NYMOM said...

I don't think doing nothing will help you...

Nor do I believe most men believe that either.

As how do you explain why men keep trying to get laws passed restricting single women from becoming mothers...if doing nothing is a good strategy, That's what is at the heart of most of the recent court cases in the news over the last few years. Attempts to rein in women using anonymous sperm donors, for instance. Even defacto parenthood rulings generally are used against mothers, grandparents rights, same thing...

MOST of the defendants in these cases have been single mothers.

So doing nothing doesn't seem to be an option for most of you...AND I kind of agree. Eventually what will start happening if men continue withdrawing is women will begin having children on their own with anonymous donors or adoptions (it's happening now really) and men will be even further removed from families...as most men are NOT going to bother either adopting or using surrogate mothers.

Single men, for instance, rarely adopt and they have had the right for a few decades now...

Anonymous said...

Sperm donors are men also, so I'm including them when I say "doing nothing". Like in not going to the sperm clinic and not ejaculating in a glass.

No law authorizing women to use anonymous sperm will be useful, if there is no sperm left to give them. If the recent trend of identifying anonymous donors keeps growing, very soon no man will accept to give sperm, knowing that there is a very real possibility of a child coming someday asking for acknowledgement or money. About adoptions, if less children are born (as the trend appears to be), there will be less orphans for single women to adopt.

About "I don't think doing nothing will help you", I ask you: "helping me to WHAT?" You said men are useless to women. In the same way, women are useless to men. The only commodities they have a monopoly of (because we can supply our other needs ourselves) is sex and children.

You state that men have no feelings towards children, therefore they are not a need to us. About sex, we can use prostitution or our right hand.

Can you give me a good reason to support a woman, then? Remember, most people -men and women alike- don't care about the society, the survival of species or similar reasons. Most of us are interested only in what benefits us. So, if you want a real solution, you should take in account this trait of human nature. Again, what's in it for me?

You said it yourself, we don't adopt, so we're ok without children. So, why should I leave a situation (single, childless) where I am ok, to enter in a situation where I have nothing to win and a lot to lose? Whatever reason you give, it must be a damn good reason.

So, it depends on women to convince us men to go back to support them and give them children. Right now, we have no reason to do it.

And no, nagging is not a reason.

NYMOM said...

Many adoptions today are of children from overseas where I guess single motherhood hasn't taken root yet.

AND by the time these societies start exhibiting our traits of not marrying, single mothers producing most kids, etc., probably cloning will be here...

But I have to return to your attempt to portray men as simply doing nothing about this, as it's not true. Men are doing EVERYTHING possible on the legal front, propaganda front, as well as public policy front to get back in the family driver's seat again.

So it's not true as you paint, that men are all just disinterestedly sitting back and doing nothing, waiting for women to finally burn out on this issue.

There is a major sea change taking place in our society vis-a-vis how we will reproduce and raise our families. AND, if men continue doing nothing useful except instigating custody fights, trying to pass laws disadvantaging single mothers, fighting over paying child support, over visitation, etc., you are all going to be the losers...

As I believe women will begin (as is happening already) to eliminate your rights BEFORE conception so they and their children don't have to worry about these issues after the fact...life will continue right on w/o you...and men will be MORE isolated from family life then you are right now.

So you are trading some short-term victories over women (with these court rulings and public policy changes) for long term catastrophe. As how long can you continue legislating unfairness to women and children from the bench? No free or fair society will allow that to continue long...

Okay...just to let you know.

If you can't add anything constructive to the mix then yes, you should back off and do nothing...that would be a public benefit for this society to have those men, who aren't really very interested in families, to do this today.

NYMOM said...

BTW, sex and children are not commodities as you paint them, but probably what essentially makes us human...

Our ONLY connection with the real world and the other species on the planet...

Anonymous said...

If overseas there are not so many single mothers (as you say), it means those children have mother and father. So why would they want to give you their children?

Besides, You should be glad that there are men wanting to go back to the family driver's seat. At least, those guys want to be in the family. They're interested in a family. The big problem will come when there are no more guys interested in a family.

If we don't have rights before conception, why should we help women to conceive? You forget that women can't conceive alone. You need us before it, to give you sperm, and after, to take care of you while you can't do it yourself.

So, if you alienate us, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Because, no matter how badly you want, the sperm belongs to us, and no law will ever compel us to give it unwillingly. No men, no sperm, no children. Get the idea?

And if you want to use sperm from abroad, remember, you will have to pay for it. Supply and Demand law, that sperm will become more and more expensive. And more so, women using that sperm won't have anybody to take care of them when they're unable to take care of themselves immediately before and after birth.

So, I'm not stating men are doing nothing (at least, not yet). I'm stating that we will win this fight even if we do nothing.

You see, kicking us, demeaning us, stripping us of our rights, won't make us to be sympathetic to your plight, believe it or not.

If yo are really interested in family and children, you should accept men in the driver's seat. After all, when the car is broken, or there is no car, who's the driver is a moot point.

NYMOM said...

Overseas adoption out to a foreigner is the solution to having an unwanted girl child (from China for instance) or even the child of an unmarried woman (like Angelina Jolie's adopted son from Vietnam)...

Clearly there must be thousands of these kids looking for homes as I see many women in my neighborhood who have adopted Asian girl babies...

Angelina Jolie did it as well as Meg Ryan and many others as well, not so well known...

AND those guys you referred to are only interested in a family as long as they can control everyone in it. Men were able to get away with that when you were the breadwinners and women were dependent on you for everything.

Then I'll admit that model made sense.

However, it is not the case anymore, as most women with children work today (over 60% I read somewhere) so clearly your role model for the family needs updating...and that's probably about 90% of why the old social forms can't work anymore.

Men just don't seem to want to accept this. Listen if I have to go out to work all day I am not going for anybody telling me how we are going to order our lives w/o my input. Get it...you could do that before, you decided where the family lived, what they spent their money on, where they vacationed, etc.,

You cannot do that anymore.

You have LOST that power...

Okay...

Accept it already.

Move on...

Regarding women needing men to have children, yes they do, but only superficially to conceive...

I mentioned cloning but it's probably not very realistic.

Probably what will eventually happen is that laws will change and most single men will no longer have rights/responsibilities for children conceived out of wedlock. Just the ones whose children need public benefits will be obligated to pay back the taxpayers through obligatory child support to the state...

That's the way it USED to be BTW and both men and women were fine with it.

Marriage used to and probably will again define when men have legal rights/responsibilities. Again men are fine with this.

Right now, a group of you have a case beginning, where some man is protesting being forced to pay child support to a child he never planned to conceive. He wasn't married to the mother, so I agree with him.

Why should be be forced to pay child support OR conversely have rights...

So that's what I see as the scenario eventually emerging from the chaos we currently have.

Married men with automatic rights and responsibilities to any children conceived within a lawful marriage.

Single men with no rights or responsibilites UNLESS either:

a. mother/father voluntarily agrees to rights/responsibilities for father...

b. child becomes dependent upon the state, then STATE (not mother) can take you to court for child support to pay back public benefits.

Again, mother/father STILL must agree to rights/responsibilities for father...other then financial...

There is precedent for this btw, as in bankruptcy private debtors are treated differently from public ones: such as student loans or tax liens.

Ultimately some percentage of the population will marry and have all their rights and obligations to child protected.

Others will not, thus leaving women w/o support (unless they try to hit the taxpayers up for it)...

Or conversely leaving men w/o rights to children...

It's a simple way to order the current situation...

NYMOM said...

You are living in a dream world if you think the old days are coming back where women accepted men in the driver's seat because that's the way we used to do it.

It won't fly anymore...

You either compromise or remain single.

You'll have access to sex but if you spawn any kids you'll be screwed unless you can convince the woman to let you have rights. As you will NOT automatically be entitled to any, the way you are today...unless you are married...

Anonymous said...

"AND those guys you referred to are only interested in a family as long as they can control everyone in it. Men were able to get away with that when you were the breadwinners and women were dependent on you for everything."
Correct. So I'm interested in a family, in my terms. If you don't meet my terms, I don't want a family with you. See how it works?

"Angelina Jolie did it as well as Meg Ryan and many others as well, not so well known..."
And all of them paid a lot in cash for that, in the range of dozens of thousands of bucks, so you can't extrapolate their experience to the female population in general.

"Men just don't seem to want to accept this."
Correct. And that's the reason by which your scheme fails. Because, never mind how much you demand and nag, if we don't want, you can't make us do it.

Remember, a woman has power over a man only "after" she married him, when the laws are backing her up. Before that, he can simply laugh her off.

"Listen if I have to go out to work all day I am not going for anybody telling me how we are going to order our lives w/o my input."
100% agree. So, since I also have to work all day, why should I accept a woman telling me how to order my life without my input?

"You have LOST that power...
Okay...
Accept it already.
Move on..."

Let's say I lost the power to be the head of a family. Does it mean I have to compromise? Hardly. I can simply refuse to initiate a family in such terms, or, in an equivalent to your "adopting abroad", go and find a wife abroad who will accept my terms.

(now, since "adopting abroad" and "marrying abroad" are equivalent, in the sense that in both cases you seek abroad what you can't find domestically, you can't complain about it).

"You either compromise or remain single."
100% agree, so I will remain single. Now, imagine more and more men choosing singlehood, and see how your scenario crashes, because the crucial assumption in your ultimatum is that men will choose compromise.

And that's where you are wrong.

Well, it was fun to talk with you. I have to go back to my couch and drink a beer. The escort should be here in less than an hour, so I have plenty of time to get ready.

NYMOM said...

No...the critical assumption in my scenario is that many men and women will NOT compromise.

Thus, I want the people who make our laws and public policy to realize this and adjust them accordngly...to accept the fact that a large number of our children will be either born/adopted to single mothers...and quit trying to order our world as if men and women have the same thing invested in children or wish too...

BTW, I know a good number of women, who are not rich, making $50,000 - $70,000 incomes, who adopt...I am going to a party later today at a woman's house who has adopted two children and she's not a millionaire.

If you go to the website "Single Parents by Choice" you will see a good number of pictures of ordinary women who chose to be single mothers, either through adoption or anonymous donor...

So no, this is not the option ONLY of the very rich.

AND I don't assume men will have to go abroad or use an escort to have a relationship. Men and women will still have relationships and some good number will probably get married and have families within the traditional framework.

BUT there are also a good number of people who will not wish to marry today and still wish to have children...so we need to recognize this and quit trying to trap every women amongst this group into having to sign up with a male overseer before she can feel free to do this.

That's the problem...

NYMOM said...

Additionally I don't want you and your friends harrassing me and my friends all the time with phony stats about single mothers being these horrible people...or swamping our kids with propaganda about penguins or clown fish, trying to lay some kind of weird guilt trip off on them everytime they put on the tv set or enter a movie house.

Okay...

Kimberly said...

I really need help.
When I was 20 I had a little boy who is my life…His father was a cruel man. Everything was his way and there was no leaving.. He hit me when I was pregnant.. I had my son and it seemed to get a little better.. I made all the money, we had two cars… I was not allowed to drive those cars or have a license. . He beat me so bad one day that I told myself that even if I had to die my son would be out of there. The next day he hit me in front of his family and I left for good. He tried to come back and I told him I was not in love with him anymore.. I did allow him to have a relationship with his son even though I was granted full custody with no visitation. When my son was almost two he decided that he would kidnap my son and not bring him back… The cops chased him and he pulled over… They got my son and then he Killed him self with a shotgun that he had with him… It could have been me or my son just as easily. Again my heart was broken not because of me but because of my son.. Not ever getting to know his father…He was good with my son before he died and I am grateful for that… No one in his family stood by me except his dad who spent alot of time with his grandson. So I became a single mother.. I worked really hard there was no me time… I worked and worked… I dated a little but the guys were immature and did not understand that my son came first.. In 2000 I met this man lets call him “idiot”.. He was really nice at first… He made me believe that he wanted all the same things that I did. A house and family and love…Boy was I wrong… I moved in with him 3 months after we started dating. He was really good to my son at first…Bought him things played with him… He made this sob story that he could not have children and that he wanted my son to be his and would love him and I and take care of us. At that time I was working on the other side of the world and he was not.. he kept my son during the day while I worked. He would not do anything around the house I would come home and have to cook and clean and take care of my son… After a few months of this I was angry but I am fighter that is what I do so I stuck in there and tried to make things work.. He became very Jealous and I was not allowed to go out with friends or do anything on my own.. I know crazy… He started spending hours and hours on the computer looking at porn and talking to other girls.. We were no longer that intimate. He was mean and called me stupid all the time.
One day he received a call from his brother in Florida to come down and help him.. He left me and J for three months he promised things would be better when he go home.. He would send tons of money home… I would ask him where it was coming from and he said that he and his brother sold a sailboat… When he did come home he broke down and told me that him and his brother took a boat ride down to keys and ripped some guy off a bunch drugs… I was shocked how could he do something like that.. I wanted to leave and take my child and walk away. He was so cruel and told me I could not leave that if I tried he would Take my child and leave the country…. I was so scared that I did what he told me to do.
He made me and my son go to Florida with him and live with his brother.. He told me also that he stole his other brothers identity..Whack Job… We fought alot and he would Choke me to the ground he was too smart to put marks on me.. He would tell me he was going to kill me and my family if I did not do what he said. We came back home and things got worse.. He was taking trips every-week… There was cameras in every room of the house and on the outside so that i could not leave… He could pull up the cameras anywhere… I was so scared.. He was sleeping with so many women and Gambling so much money it was. insane.. I just wanted to take my child and leave…He came home one day and told me I needed to pack my things that he had rented me an apartment a few streets over… He told me that I was moving out and that I was not taking my child. He had his attorney draw up Joint managing Conservator-ship papers giving him primary… He told me if I wanted to see my son that I would sign those papers… I refused for a long time and every-time he would tell me I will kill you or take your child from you and leave the country and you will never find him… I believed him because there was so much money. .. I tried to hire an attorney but had no money and no one would help me… I talked to the attorneys that I had at work and they told me do not sign them… But when some one doesn’t let you see your son and forces you to have sex with him and do what he says just to be able to spend more time with your son you start telling yourself there is no hope.. I kept working and I lived by myself in the apartment it was a two bedroom and my sons room was so cutely decorated I thought that “idiot” would realize he needed to give my son back and move on with his life… I went to his new property one day he bought alot of land.. I went to spend time with my son and he told me he was tired of me costing him money with the attorney.. There was a gun very close to him and he kept looking at it… I told him please do not make me sign these just let me have my son and I won’t say anything… He told me I was going to sign the papers or I would die.. I signed the papers… My life has been hell ever since.. I moved to be closer to my son. again he had his own room. Idiot would let me have him on the weekends but that was it… I had to work to pay for the apartment so I was having to work alot of hours he told everyone that I did not want my son and that i left him….About a year after this all began I was about to a breaking point I could not tell anyone… I missed my son… I started to kill myself… I drove into a parking lot of a church and went inside.. I talked to a counselor and he told me I had to tell that I had to call the police.. I did.. I called and they said that they would help me.. I gave them all the evidence that I had which is alot of stuff. Bank records Etc. Now we are at over two years that they have had this case.. There is so many people looking at this and still they can not do anything about it… I have called Advocacy groups, Lawyers,legal Aid you name it and no one can help me..I get told this is too big. Why is this man getting away with everything but murder? WHY? I need some one to tell me why there is no rule or law that states that when a women or a man sign Divorce papers or Custody papers that there should be a Notary or Law enforcement official to make sure that you where not forced to sign paperwork.. When all this is said and done I will write my congressman and senator and ask the same thing… I feel as though I am a women and I am receiving no help. But if I was not working, had 8 kids and on welfare i could receive better help. That is such BLEEP.. I am helping the law put away a criminal and all I am asking for is some one to arrest him and give me back my child so that we can move on with our lives and heal..I found out today that last year when the court ordered a social study that we did they recently allowed his attorney to have the report and then let his client read. He now knows that there is an investigation. He recently was taking Nude Photos of my son and 4 other children nude on top of Donkeys. CPS has told me several times that since there is a federal investigation and we are fighting over my son that they can not help me. HELLO MY GOD.. Please Help me... I am going to die. Help my son Please.. HOW DO I FIGHT AGAINST SOMEONE WITH MILLIONS IN DRUG MONEY. Your guess is correst I can't .. I Have contacted these services and they could not help do to the severity of the case, I have tried hundreds of other people and get the same thing. No one wants to step in till the investigation is over. and the Agents will not tell the court what is going on so I am stuck in the middle of all of this and so is my child. All I do is research and calls.. No one not anyone will step in on my behalf and help me... The agents want there big bust and coviction and all I want is my child it is a power struggle that can no longer be.. I need Help..Please...It should not take three years to do an investigation,, Especially when I gave them the evidence and the leads. I am putting a criminal away and all they have to is arrest him or stand up in my behalf.. They agree with me that my child needs to be with me and this man is dangerous but will not put him back with me or even speak to the court... As a Mother this is very appalling... I do not want to be a Lifetime channel movie... I want to move on with my life I am a great mother and I have never been in trouble in my life and the court will not recognise the fact this man is keeping my child away from me so I will keep my mouth shut... I can not fight him he has millions in Drug money and he lives on a compound 266 acres with cameras at all the perimeters and guns by all the doors, he is very controlling to all the children in that home... they are like little robots... I want something done about this... Please there has to be something that your office can do... Can you have some calls made to the court or the investigators... I am very close to going to the public regarding all this and I feel once I do this that my life and my childs will be in danger but I am at the end of my rope and I told myself when all this started that I would do everything by the book and I have but no on e is helping me... Please I know you do not know me but I am begging for something to be done Please I need help... I do not want to have take my child and run and traumatise him anymore then he allreasy is but if I have to I will... Please help me

NYMOM said...

Long story short: this is very common today as children are worth income today, as well as government benefits which go to whoever has legal custody of them.

Sorry...