Non-Custodial Mothers Should be Showing Support for John Murtari

I was kind of sorry to see that no non-custodial mothers or any of their organizations (if one such animal existed) was involved in supporting this John Murtari. I happen to personally know that a good number of non-custodial mothers are located in upstate New York and have to deal fairly regularly with a court system that thinks it’s okay to treat a non-custodial mother as a second-class citizen.

Not getting involved in this issue or showing any support for this man has allowed fathers rights advocates to grab the issue for themselves and paint it as another example of bias against fathers in court; which, in fact, it is not.

The horror of a moveaway of her children is a constant shadow looming over the lives of millions of non-custodial mothers. They might never see their children again after a moveaway, at least not until they are adults. IF the children even remember their mother, they might find their way back.

Or not.

This is a regular threat in the daily life of a non-custodial mother.

Much of this activity has been facilitated by the court system in order to enable men to get out of paying high child support. Yet there also exists a strain of gender-neutralized feminism that has enabled our legal system to be used against mothers as well. These sad, sick and demented gender-neutralized creatures, in their never-ending attempts to create an androgynous world, will go to any lengths to totally reshape our society in their own gender-neutralized image. AND they don’t care how many lives they have to destroy in order to do it.

These two elements are the genesis of these ongoing custody wars we hear so much about.

People like John Murtari, unfortunately, are frequently the equivalent of ‘collateral damage’ in these ongoing custody and social engineering wars. As there was no bias against fathers exhibited in his case.

Nevertheless although no bias appears evident, it does seem that John Murtari was the victim of a court system that feels it doesn't have to follow the same law that everyone else has to follow, but instead they can do whatever they feel like doing, depending upon their own personal opinion, bias against a particular group, dislike of a certain person, social engineering agenda, whatever.

As basically the laws of New York State DO allow for moveaways, BUT they also allow for child support paid to the custodial parent to be lessened in order to account for the higher expenses involved in visitation by the non-custodial parent. Otherwise the left behind parent is obviously facing a double bind as either they can afford to visit OR pay child support, not both. AND with airfare as expensive as it is, renting a car and a hotel room (because of course the moveaway ALWAYS winds up being half way across the continent, never just to the next state) clearly not getting child support reduced to reflect the new visitation travel expenses involved means you might never see your kids again.

This is John Murtari’s dilemna and it’s a familiar ones to all non-custodial mothers since generally their income is less then custodial fathers, thus they are more likely to be subject to the sort of spiteful and vicious manipulation of a moveaway in an attempt to keep them from seeing their children. Richard Gardner, himself, the PAS expert admitted that 50% of his clients having children alienated from them were mothers. AND who was doing this, but the childrens' fathers. This was back in the 80s when few fathers had custody YET Gardner client caseload was 50% mothers and 50% fathers. So if we are to believe Gardner (and I'll admit it's quesionable if he can be believed on anything, as this statement of his could have been a bizarre attempt to drum up more business from women) anyway if true this could show that custodial fathers are even MORE likely to be alienating then custodial mothers.

Anyway, John Murtari's problem should have been a simple enough one to solve except, of course, when you are dealing with a class of court officials who decide to ignore the remedy we already have in place: simply by reducing Murtari's child support to reflect the higher costs of visiting his son after the moveaway to Colorado from New York.

So the Judge(s) responsible for this whole unnecessary uproar should probably be investigated and then suitably disciplined. As we have REAL problems going on in the world and should not have to be subject to this sort of manufactured crisis.

Just my opinion.

Yet at the same time, non-custodial mothers can use the spotlight that has been placed on the moveaway issue through John Murtari’s ordeal to work on getting the law changed that allow a custodial parent to do any ‘moveaway’ of our children. We should call these actions what they are: judicially sanctioned abductions. Since they are nothing but men using the legal systems they have created to benefit themselves and kidnap our children from us. All of this for financial incentive mainly to benefit men.


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The Post Standard

Jailed activist refusing food
Thursday, August 10, 2006

By Jim O'Hara
Staff writer

A vocal opponent of the state's divorce and custody laws is refusing to eat or drink as a protest in the Onondaga County Justice Center Jail in Syracuse, where he is serving a six-month sentence for not paying child support.

John Murtari, 49, is serving the sentence in the Justice Center instead of the county penitentiary in Jamesville because of the health services available in the downtown facility, according to sheriff's Sgt. John D'Eredita.

"Apparently, he's taken the position he doesn't want to eat or take any fluids," D'Eredita said.

County Family Court Judge Bryan Hedges said Wednesday he sentenced Murtari about a week ago to six months in jail for the willful failure to pay child support.

According to Hedges, he gave Murtari the option of a probationary sentence, but Murtari chose a jail sentence instead.

Murtari is well-known around the courthouse, where he has long protested the system that granted his ex-wife custody of their son following years of legal battles. He also has protested the support orders and the fact his wife moved across the country with their son, now 13.

A former Lysander resident now living in Wayne County, Murtari organized Kids-Right, a national organization that advocates a child's right to both parents.

Hedges said Murtari has chronicled his battle on his Web site - www.akidsright.org - and the recently imposed jail sentence has attracted a lot of attention. The judge said he has received numerous e-mails about the case and his law clerk has been fielding phone calls "from around the country and around the world" about the case.

A small group of supporters gathered Wednesday outside the Onondaga County Courthouse to protest Murtari's jail sentence and to call for changes in the way noncustodial parents are treated by the courts.

"There are far too many criminals on the streets to be filling jail cells with folks who have fallen on hard times," said Kris Titus, of Fathers for Justice in Canada.

Murtari's lawyer Charles Keller said his client is not refusing to pay support, he's simply unable to pay the amount the court has ordered