Sunday, November 13, 2005

One Year Anniversary as a Blogger

I just wish to note that October 27th was my one-year anniversary of having a blog...

My very first post was inspired by Mary Colonna's situation in Pennsylvania and my first post of my 'new year' mentions her as well.

It's interesting, I orginally became involved in these matters after the location of a child, Ryan Patrick Greene, abducted from my state, New York.

He was abducted by his father and a step person when he was two years old and not located until his mother finally tracked him down (on her own, the authorities were useless) 14 years later...

YET the ending of this story was not even a day served in jail for the monsters who kidnapped him, not even ONE DAY...

"Sunday, January 21, 2001
Parents say it's like losing their children twice
By Jeffrey Klineman
Eagle-Tribune Writer

For years, the problem for parents who have had their children abducted has been locating their loved ones.

Now, however, as coordinated police work and a number of high-profile recoveries have focused attention on the subject of parental abduction, a new set of problems has emerged: how to overcome the abductees' almost unanimous rejection of the left-behind parents, most of whom have spent countless hours and dollars looking for them.

Last week, it took just one night for Ryan Patrick Greene, 17, of Newbury to decide he wanted to return to his father and stepmother after being reunited with his mother. He hadn't seen his mother in 14 years. His father and stepmother now face kidnapping charges.

But some experts would say that the one night Ryan Patrick Greene -- known as "Patrick" -- gave his mother is one more than most left-behind parents can hope for.

As recent cases have highlighted -- and many more that have been studied have proven -- the road to reunification is often a tragically brief one, ending with the abducted child returning to the kidnapping parent, and little or no relationship developing with the parent who did the searching.

"Initially, not one single abducted child ever wants to speak to or see the parent who was left behind," said Pamela Stuart-Mills, the head of the Rachel Foundation, a new organization based in Damascus, Md., that tries to facilitate the long, difficult process of reunion.

"When it's long-term, it's very hard to bridge that gap," Ms. Malky added. "Because of all the lies they're told, and for so many years, it's hard to break through. All they're hearing is the other side of the story. And they can't understand why we can't find them."

The failure of those reunions has been laid bare for the public recently through two well-known cases with Massachusetts ties.

Last week, after 14 years in hiding, Patrick was reintroduced to his mother. The reunion, which began in Newbury but continued in Oneonta, N.Y., the site of Patrick's abduction, lasted less than a day. The 16-year-old has said he intends to take advantage of a New York law that will allow him to emancipate himself from his parents. Patrick has said he plans to live with his father and stepmother in Newbury, even though the pair may face jail time for charges they kidnapped him.

Parents who are left behind are often lied about by the parent on the run, if not "killed off" completely through stories about car accidents or overdoses.

"Very often the abducting parent will program the child to believe the parent who has been left behind is noxious or dangerous," said Dr. Richard A. Gardner, a New Jersey-based psychiatrist, Columbia University Medical School professor and author who has written about "parental alienation syndrome," a condition, frequently associated with custody disputes, in which one parent turns a child against the other parent. "It provides some justification to explain to the child why they are in hiding."

Second, it is difficult to find a parentally abducted child. It took fourteen years and hundreds of false leads to locate Brian Greene and his children. And when the discovery is made, frequently children cannot believe that the parent has been looking for them."

AND as I pointed out not ONE DAY of jail time was handed out to the monsters who perpetuated this crime...

This injustice was actually what started my involvement in mother's issues.

I "met" Mary Colonna and many other mothers over the internet and after going back and forth on trying a number of things to get some light focused on our issues, I eventually decided to start a blog pertaining to them, as I felt the news media was covering motherhood issues, if at all, very inadequately.

When I first started this blog I was worried that I wouldn't have enough material to update often enough, as stories focusing on mothers were not I decided to try for once a week updates.

Now, I think I could post a couple of new posts every day. I don't know if there are more stories about mothers in the media, or if I've just become a better detective scooping them out or what...

Anyway my one year anniversary just passed...just thought I'd let anyone who was interested know.


Anonymous said...

Maybe the real monster in this case was Hirsch, his junkie abusive mother.

You're an idiot.

NYMOM said...

Well then maybe I'll change the title of the post to read: Responsible School Officials Shouldn't Have Unprotected Sex with Unstable Female Drug Addicts.


That way, going foward, we won't have these problems. Hopefully his son learned something from this experience and won't be such a screw up like his father.