"...At a time when the medical community has been heartened by a decline in risky sexual behavior by teenagers, a different problem has crept up: More adult women are forgoing birth control, a trend that has experts puzzled -- and alarmed about a potential rise in unintended pregnancies.
The December report did not tabulate unintended pregnancies, though preliminary information from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found a slight increase in the birth rate in 2003, most notably in women older than 30..."
Well before we go getting our panties in a bunch over this development, let me first say SO WHAT??? A woman over 30 is a free agent and there are NO LAWS against her deciding to have a child as a single mother. As long as she's a self-supporting, reasonably normal human being and since MOST PEOPLE are that, we must assume she is too...So what is the big deal here? Do we vet all those married youngsters in trailor parks across the nation popping out one kid after another before they are barely functioning adults themselves?
If we do, I never heard of it...
So why do we NEED to vet these adult women? Quick answer, we don't...
The logical reason for this situation is that these women are just looking around at their prospects and deciding that the current crop of men we've spawned are not up to their standards. AND who could blame them...the men of our society have morphed into a bunch of useless crybabies, who are never quite sure if they are ready for a committment yet (like David Letterman, at 51, still wasn't SURE if he was ready to be a parent, righto). A woman's eggs could get 'hard boiled' waiting for Mr. Right at that age and I'm not sure most of them should wait much after 30 before making a few hard choices in this area anyway.
Let's face it the book "Making a Life"...was a real eye-opener for many women really cutting down by as much as a decade the timeline of the waiting period before decisions NEED to be made. We USED to think that around 40 fertility started declining in women, NOW we know womens' fertility begins declining around 27 or 28 and continues that decline each years thereafter until she finally hits menopause...which just to let you know ladies is no day at the beach either, but that's another discussion...
Now, never-married women over 30 tend to be the cream of the crop (well-educated, higher income, probably better groomed). On the other hand, their counterparts, never-married men over 30 are the dregs of our society, many of them ex-cons, drug addicts or just barely recovering acoholics, in short a pack of losers and slobs...
Now why in the heck should we waste the cream of the crop on these losers?
Why?
Puhleeeeeease...
The statistics showing children from single mother households as having problems showed that the mid to higher level income mothers (making $50,000 annually and up)were doing JUST FINE with their kids and I'm sure if we cared enough to check some of the income statistics of this new batch of 30 something single mothers, we'd find the same thing...their kids are going to do just fine...
This latest 'finding' that women over 30 are taking the plunge into motherhood alone is NOT a bad thing at all...but just another necessary step up the evolutionary scale as more and more men opt out of the marriage market to pursue more important life goals such as Monday Night Football and/or hanging around the corner trying to score a dime bag of weed...
Thus women deciding to have children on their own after 30 ensures the ongoing contribution into the gene pool of our best and brightest mothers even as their male counterpart continue their existence as laid-back slackers just barely existing on the fringes of real life...
This trend is absolutely nothing to worry about, just more scare tactics from the other side...busily spinning more bs in mens' never-ending attempt to regain their place at the apex of everything, even when they are not really very interested in marriage or children to begin with...so I guess women shouldn't be either...until men get around to it at 50 or so...we'll just wait...
Again, puhleeeeease....get over yourselves already...
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Wow...
A few weeks ago you were sending me such threatening emails I was going to report you to security here...Now I get this...It's a little much for a Friday just before a long weekend...
Either you've really just had an epiphany or someone has put you up to this for what reason I do not know...
I will read this later tonight from home and reply...
Later...
"Now, you hate feminists."
First of all I do NOT hate feminists...nor do I blame them for everything...I simply pointed out that they have been worse then useless throughout this current crisis...NOT only have they been useless, but many have frequently aided and abetted men in separating mothers from their children, even infants...
I hate to point this out to you, but you have been a party to this too...along with many other women too numerous to name...
You cannot undo all the damage you do to people just by saying you're sorry after the fact...Remember that...
"Neither do I agree with you that all men are criminals and anti-social. I don't even believe it's even half of men who are like that. It's only a minority of men who are like that."
I never said ALL men were criminals...I understand that hard-core criminals are a small percentage of the entire population, nevertheless, I do believe that MANY more men then women commit acts that are anti-social in nature, even if not crimes...
For instance, many men have one-night stands with women and spread disease or have children from these encounters...Of course people always say when I bring this up, well for every man who does this is one woman...Well that is wrong...Prostitution or the 'world's oldest profession' does NOT exist because women make it profitable but because men do...
Additionally men have always, and still do today if able, abandon children...although the latest propaganda from party headquarters is to act like mothers 'drive' them off for money. Even if this is true NOW, it is only a recent phenonemon. What about all the thousands of years where men have done this on their own, when are they going to be made to answer for that?
As always the root of our most intractable social problems remains the selfish, irresponsible and and deviant behavior of men...even if these behaviors are not labeled as crimes...and this has been true from the time of the Romans, probably longer, but we don't have such good historical records from older civilizations to judge this.
"I also don't agree with you that the reason why women aren't having as many children anymore is do to the threats made by fathers' rights men.
More often than not, the reason why women aren't having children anymore is because they simply don't want to be an incubator."
There is no mother who is an INCUBATOR...there are ONLY mothers, good, bad or indifferent...this thinking is a residual taint left over from hanging around with these fathers' rights nuts...
BTW, I never said ALL women have to have children... thus, the name of my blog WOMENASMOTHERS...it is ONLY for those women who chose to be mothers...Women who chose to do other things have that right...but probably won't find much of use to them here...
"So just to let you know, I had an epiphany recently, and it was to leave the men's/father's rights fanatical misogynistic movement, and embrace liberal feminism."
Let me give you some advice, forget all these 'isms'... Live your life to be the best person YOU can be without feeling the need to join up with an 'ism' or cult-like advocacy groups (which by the way I consider many of the mens/fathers rights groups to be morphing into)...most are totally useless at best (such as feminism has recently demonstrated) or dangerous at worse (such as the future will show Fathers' Rights group to be)...
"PS: My most sincere apologies for the hate emails. I know what those feel like because ever since I've announced my liberal feminism, I've received hate email a couple of times from psycho-male Republicans and some men's/fathers' rights males."
Well I'm happy to hear that you've come to your senses...
Peace...
"A woman routinely forced to give birth by society's demand of her to do so, has been sadly reduced to being an incubator. Because that's what she is to society...a birthing machine, nothing else."
Well I don't agree with this statement...however limited the contraception years ago, most women who had children did so willingly and joyously and loved their children in spite of everything...
...and still do...
For instance, slave mothers wept when their children were taken away from them and tried every strategy they could think of to keep them...we have many historic accounts of this. Surely these women who were being used as 'incubators' by men to make money loved their children as much as any pampered woman having her children in a mansion somewhere, although according to your thinking they should have loved them less...
Mothers' bond with her children does NOT depend upon the surrounding society's demands or changing viewpoints on how important a mothers' children are to her...it is not a changeable thing depending upon the times, the financial or tax benefits available or the child as hottest trend in male-fashion accessory...
The mother/child bond exists independently of these things OR it doesn't exist at all...and if it doesn't exist at all THEN we're in real trouble...
"And FYI, laws are more damaging than words and posting on blogs. I think you should hold legislators, judges, and lawyers more responsible for the anti-mother damage that's sweeping through the West. This is the reason why I'm staying the hell away from Family Law....it is tainted.
My words never directly enacted any laws as I'm just some blogger, not a politician, not a judge, not a lawyer....yet."
Again you are wrong...words do have effect...the words of MANY women over the last few decades or so gave the Fathers' Rights movement it's intelluctual underpinnings...Actually early feminism's focus on all human behavior, including the mother/child bond, as being nothing but a social construct set the stage for this latest assault on mothers...but it would be wrong to say I was blaming them...I'm not...I'm just setting the record straight.
Ultimately the blame for this rest on the heads of men...for acting upon their selfish and irresponsible impulses...their behavior has set the cause of women back years, as we waste time fighting over the most fundamental right every woman should possess as her birthright, the right to her own children.
The only women in the history of the WORLD to have any rights, the ones in Western Society, and instead of men being happy for us and proud of our achievements, they pull this sh*t...
AND believe me this has the potential to undermine every single OTHER right women have gained...every single one is in jeopardy because of these a@@holes...as if they continue winning court victories and being allowed to hold our children 'hostage' which in the final analysis that is all father custody is...the ability to hold a mothers' children hostage to ensure certain behaviors...
I mean the minor issues are: smoking, dressing, cursing which at ANY point, ANY point can be used as grounds for modification of custody...the major issues are working too many hours or at an unconventional career, dating too much or not dating the right sort of men (as women who attempt to enter into interracial relalationships can lose custody of their children as well)...
The potential is endless here, simply endless for all sorts of behavioral control issues to be played out against the backdrop of 'best interest of the child' anything actually...and back to my original point, many women helped men get in this situation to use custody as a club against their sisters...
AND of course, we can do what you and many other women do: which is opt out of an important component of MOST womens' lives and chose NOT to have children. We CAN protect ourselves this way...however I don't know too many women who are going to want to live a limited life like that where their cat is their best friend...NOR should women have to live like this because men, along with a bunch of addled brained idiot women, have decided to try to push back the civil and legal rights of other women...as soon as they decide to have a kid or two...
I don't want to have to worry that my daughters or my granddaughter are going to someday fall into the hooks of some male vulture and be trapped by this moron as soon as they have a kid or two...
I'm too old for that sh*t...
NYMOM, Thea was an extremist, a vocal poster on an MRA site I was on. I left that site in part because her presense and posting style was a catylist for many hate filled rants. She would rant on and on, and others would follow. Little rational discussion followed her posting, and the threads were extremist and viscious. I would have a hard time believing she is truly feminist, or even pro-woman. Just a warning.
As I have said before, my expirience has been less than 1% of MRA's want to appeal abortion for political reasons, want to have any control over women's bodies, or want to send women into the kitchen. Most just want an opt out clause, like women have now, which still allows women to have the choices over ther bodies. They want to stay in their kids lives after divorce. They want fair laws. Nothing extrordinary or unreasonable.
Apparently she has not been posting there for a while- I just checked. Still, just keep an eye open.
"NYMOM, Thea was an extremist, a vocal poster on an MRA site I was on. I left that site in part because her presense and posting style was a catylist for many hate filled rants. She would rant on and on, and others would follow. Little rational discussion followed her posting, and the threads were extremist and viscious. I would have a hard time believing she is truly feminist, or even pro-woman. Just a warning."
Yes, she was like that when I first met her also, but subsequently she broke off from being affiliated with Mens' Rights Advocates because she saw herself that basically they just hate women.
She started her own blog; but now shares one with Ampersand on Atlas, A Blog (he's a pro feminist, mens rights advocate, gay man, say that 3 times fast LOL). Anyway she's has been doing a pretty good job of that...
Basically the pro-feminist men are a more subtle version of MRAs, they have the same agenda, but not the aggressiveness...
Actually I'm ONLY allowed to respond on HER posts on Atlas, A Blog, after I argued with some feminists there about how much they had in common with Mens' Rights Advocates. They really do if you actually start analyzing their positions, but neither side wants to OWN the other...
Anyway, Theo is about 19 years old or something I think, so at that age you have to expect a certain amount of acting out...She did send me some horrible emails but I let it slide, as I believe a MRA from another site put her up to it...
She subsequently apologized.
Anyway, I do believe in redemption and am always open to forgiving people who sincerely repent if they've done something wrong. And I believe she recognized that the MRAs she was hanging around with were a bad influence on her and now works more closedly with the pro-feminist men...
I would't blame the guys for her behavior. I was there when she stated coming over, there was only one man who was as full of vile hatred as she was coming right out of the gate. That is why she went over so well, it pulled all the extremists out of the woodwork, like extremists will.
Sounds like maybe she is chilling out. Who knows. I will believe it when I see it.
But what possible motivation would a young woman like that HAVE for feeling so strongly over an issue such as mens' rights...except the guy in her life is so predisposed...
Generally I have found (and I've been involved with the non-custodial mothers' issue for about 6 years now which led to me observing the mens rights movement and its advocates) that the women who are involved with the mens rights movement are the mothers, wives and girlfriends of men who are involved...
It's very rare for a woman to just come into the mens rights movement on her own...
AND many young women become vicious and passionate advocates BECAUSE THE MEN in their lives are...
I hate to admit this but I read somewhere that women appear to disportionately suffer from the lack of structure and definition/purpose that ensued after the sudden victory of the women's movement. Freedom, as we've seen when we liberate societies that have long been repressed, can be a double-edged sword...I find many woman use their "freedom" to latch unto men and their issues and make them their own...
Perfect example Theo, or as she calls herself now pseudo-Adrienne is now a 'model citizen' of the internet and posts on Atlas, A Blog with NO problems...I, actually am considered more of a radical then her now...she doesn't curse, attack people and writes pretty well for someone her age...Of course, her opinions are still very volatile but you can see how she's molded herself to her surroundings and fits right in with where she is right now...on a pro-feminist mens rights blog...same story, but different chapter...
So yes, I think whatever man was in her life at that time was very influential here...
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