Recently I was very moved upon reading a piece on another blog regarding a woman who had become pregnant with triplets. She eventually aborts two of them carrying only one fetus to term, eventually delivering one healthy baby boy who is now about 18 months old. The decision-making process she uses to arrive at her ultimate decision; however was so matter-of-fact and callous that many on both sides of the abortion debate were enraged with her...
"On the subway, Peter (the boyfriend and the child's father) asked, ''Shouldn't we consider having triplets?'' And I had this adverse reaction: ''This is why they say it's the woman's choice, because you think I could just carry triplets. That's easy for you to say, but I'd have to give up my life.'' Not only would I have to be on bed rest at 20 weeks, I wouldn't be able to fly after 15. I was already at eight weeks. When I found out about the triplets, I felt like: It's not the back of a pickup at 16, but now I'm going to have to move to Staten Island. I'll never leave my house because I'll have to care for these children. I'll have to start shopping only at Costco and buying big jars of mayonnaise. Even in my moments of thinking about having three, I don't think that deep down I was ever considering it."
There were no medical problems apparent with the triplets...This was not a welfare mother. She had stopped taking birth control after discussing with her boyfriend (not husband) the possibility that she might get pregnant and both agreed it could be handled...
"When we saw the specialist, we found out that I was carrying identical twins and a stand alone. My doctors thought the stand alone was three days older. There was something psychologically comforting about that, since I wanted to have just one. Before the procedure, I was focused on relaxing. But Peter was staring at the sonogram screen thinking: Oh, my gosh, there are three heartbeats. I can't believe we're about to make two disappear. The doctor came in, and then Peter was asked to leave. I said, ''Can Peter stay?'' The doctor said no. I know Peter was offended by that.
Two days after the procedure, smells no longer set me off and I no longer wanted to eat nothing but sour-apple gum. I went on to have a pretty seamless pregnancy. But I had a recurring feeling that this was going to come back and haunt me."
Little did she know how right she was as the level of hatred for this woman after this story came out was tremendous...
Nevertheless, we MUST focus on ALL the culprits in this story as it is patently unfair to point the finger at ONLY the mother here...when there are soooooo many others.
I could go on for hours about how men in general, her boyfriend in particular, contributed to this decison LONG before this mother even became pregnant...but another blogger said it better then I ever could...
"I am still angry at Amy Richards. But I am also angry at a legacy of male betrayal, irresponsibility, and abandonment. I've been saying for years that the struggle for abortion rights is rooted in (among other things) a profound disappointment in men. That disappointment and distrust becomes multi-generational. I believe in working to end abortion by a variety of means, including legal restrictions. But as a man, I know that increasing male accountability is a critical component of the struggle to end abortion. And surely, greater male responsibility is something we can all agree on."
Finally an honest man ready, willing and able to lay responsibility right back where it belongs: ON OTHER MEN...whose legacy of betrayal, irresponsibility and abandonment over countless centuries had led to our current state of affairs...
Let's all give a big round of applause to blogger Hugo Schwyzerfor having the strength of character to finally speak up and say what needed saying...that it is the selfishness of MEN that was ultimately responsible for the horror story above and no one else...
For this legacy ensures that women cannot take a leap of faith and have more children then they can handle ALONE never knowing when a partner will decide to abandon her and child...or even try to abandon her and take child himself to avoid paying child support...
Thus the selfish legacy that men have promulgated (and STILL DO, still to this day) continues its insidious work on the psyche of women paving the way for more horror stories as noted above...
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