tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740475.post111135114496560678..comments2023-07-28T07:44:40.802-04:00Comments on Women as Mothers: The Terri Schiavo Dilemma: Marriage cum Mano Versus Marriage sin ManoNYMOMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05762350054432716749noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740475.post-71872241532171452692007-02-24T21:31:00.000-05:002007-02-24T21:31:00.000-05:00Nearly 70% of all marriages that end are due to fi...Nearly 70% of all marriages that end are due to financial stress. Add to that crushing statistic that divorce has not only become acceptable, but nearly inevitable! Why? Because we as a society don't take the time to do the work up front to ensure lifelong happiness. In fact, many smart, single girls revert back to schoolgirl fantasies once the ring goes on their finger. Faster than their guy can get up off of bended knee, these girls are pulling out the bridal magazines and obsessing over napkins and cake flavors. Combining two well-lived lives requires as much attention, more in fact, as planning a fairytale wedding. So <A HREF="http://everygirlsguides.com" REL="nofollow" TITLE="second wives">Every Single Girl's Guide To Her Future Husband's Last Divorce</A> is my contribution to all future second wives out there so they can learn the ropes without getting in the ring. We owe it to ourselves and our families to protect our ASSets!<BR/><BR/>How much do you know about his first divorce or how the marriage ended? Be smart. Be prepared. And get it in writing.Adryenn Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18119200367861972368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740475.post-1111718879217834232005-03-24T21:47:00.000-05:002005-03-24T21:47:00.000-05:00Well marriages ARE already well on the way to bein...Well marriages ARE already well on the way to being obsolete, the problem is that legally they are still recognized by courts and treated as if there has been no change...that's the problem...<BR/><BR/>So we need to get some legal recognition of the changes that have taken place in the institution...<BR/><BR/>I mean somebody who marries you for a week (for the purposes of rights in the event you die or become disabled) is treated exactly the same as someone in a 20 year marriage...and with a 50% divorce rate, a big portion of them taking place at the 5 year watermark it's obvious that all marriages are NOT created equal<BR/><BR/>That's the beauty of the Roman state's recognition of the two different forms of marriage btw...<BR/><BR/>I don't remember that particular woman (the lesbian) you mentioned, but those cases are very common here right now...where if there is nothing specified, you have no right to make those decisions...in New York City, I think, you are required to have registered as a domestic partnership for that purpose... THEN New York City will allow you to visit in the hospital and make those decisions... otherwise you are Sh*t Out of Luck...but you know what...that's what happens to straight people too...as we have no recognition of common law marriage here either...<BR/><BR/>I understand that parents can be bad...but guess what, I don't think MOST parents are bad...I think MOST parents are good and love their children, thus, again, I have to say we cannot make EVERY law to focus ONLY on the parents located on the far end of the spectrum, when MOST parents reside in the middle of the bell-shaped curve...especially since a lot of courts might not even accept a guardian appointed by you BEFORE you are incapacitated...they might NOT override a spouse's legal right as your next of kin to make those decisions for you...so we can't just slide out of those 'blanket arrangmements' you refer to...a definite legal change/stance MUST be made to make sure a Judge doesn't simply ignore whatever arrangements you decided to make...<BR/><BR/>AND btw, I never implied that Michael Schiavo should NOT have the right to move on from a loveless, celibate companionless life...in fact, my position is that he should have MOVED ON YEARS AGO and left this girl with her parents to decide the rest of her life as her true, natural, guardians...<BR/><BR/>I don't consider this family's linkup with Terry Randal of Operation Rescue fame to be manipulative...but more like a desperate attempt to get some help...<BR/><BR/>You don't always have the choice, when you're in certain situations, as to who your allies will be... Even on this site, I sometimes get support from people who I normally would NOT want to be associated with...YET if your cause is a just one, you accept support from where it comes and hope that the cause itself outweighs the fact that you have temporarily had to ally yourself with some manipulating or low-end people to achieve that goal...<BR/><BR/>The only one who claimed Terri Schiavo was bulimic was Michael Schiavo and, quite frankly, I wouldn't believe him if he told me the sky was blue...the man has really already taken a second wife, in all but name, and has two children with her...He really should NOT be allowed to remain as the legal guardian of his first wife...it's positively medieval really...when an inconvenient first wife (since divorce was not allowed) could just be locked up in a cellar somewhere and starved to death...ironically enough just like Michael Schiavo is being enabled to do to his inconvenient first wife...NYMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05762350054432716749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740475.post-1111684257785372172005-03-24T12:10:00.000-05:002005-03-24T12:10:00.000-05:00I suspect that a blanket arrangements like marriag...I suspect that a blanket arrangements like marriage are going to become increasingly obsolete. In time, I suspect people as a matter of course will simply select who the person they would like to serve as "next of kin" for various issues. The gay marriage debate brought out how many lifetime partners were shut out of inheritance by greedy parents. Maybe twenty years ago, do you remember a lesbian who became incapacitated (Sharon something)and how her parents wouldn't let her partner make any decisions, or even visit her?<BR/><BR/>Spouses can be a bad choice, but I don't always think that parents are any better. As unsympathetic as Michael can be (although I'm not sure I have the moral right to demand that anyone, male or female, live a loveless, celibate, companionless life for 15 years of more while married to someone in a persistent vegetative state), I'm not sure I like Terri's parents either. They strike me as somewhat manipulative people too. I read today how the brother started networking with Christian wacko groups a few years ago. Given that Terri was apparently bulimic, and that bulimic's often have troubled families of origin, I have to wonder about these people. Bulimics typically get into that behavior because they desperately need to feel that they have some control in a situation where it appears that they have none. Interesting, because that's what we have at this point: A power struggle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com